Letters: My recommendation for dealing with grief, realized by way of essentially the most intense ache – NewsEverything Scotland

I HAVE a e book; the truth is I’ve 12 of them – Commonplace Books – however it’s that first one which started my battle towards grief. It says on the within cowl that it was given to me “to gather issues of significance, and none, by my daughter Julie in 1996”. It was a present for Mom’s Day and only a few weeks later she was useless – by suicide.

I used to be vastly saddened by the phrases written by Teddy Jamieson, a few of them spoken to him by Richard Coles (“When David died he took the long run with him, so I’ve to place collectively one other future”, Herald Journal, April 3) Each Teddy and Richard have fairly lately misplaced greatly-loved individuals from their lives and are struggling to manage, and surprise how lengthy the ache goes to final.

Bereaved individuals discover so many various methods to manage and as an alternative of strolling into the loch under my house on Skye in 1996, simply to cease the agony, I used to be lucky to have simply learn a e book by Cormac McCarthy known as The Crossing. The phrases of the “sepulterero” (the undertaker within the e book) wouldn’t go away my thoughts. Of the useless, the sepulterero whispered: “Faces fade, voices dim. Seize them again, communicate with them, name their names. Do that and don’t let sorrow die for it’s the sweetening of each reward.”

In the future I opened that vacant e book and commenced to jot down. “I will likely be your baby to carry and also you be me when I’m outdated. The world grows chilly, the heathen rage, the story’s advised, flip the web page”. Once more written by McCarthy. Now onto the 12th e book, I’ve collected poems, quotations, drawings, nice screeds of phrases, some my very own, some from letters and articles in The Herald and all are issues I might have shared with Julie and she or he with me. I learn these books time and again, I add to them always, they’re my manner of calling her title, talking together with her.

I’ve a photograph within the first e book, of my Julie taken at 16, and the poem that accompanies it was written by e.e.cummings and ends with the phrases “no person, not even the rain, has such small fingers”. Her fingers have been certainly small however her coronary heart and thoughts have been immense. I’ve many extra empty books to fill so I’ll proceed to show the pages; I’ll proceed to jot down; I’ll proceed to name her title.

I hope that Richard and Teddy discover one thing to offer them consolation.

Thelma Edwards, Kelso.


CLAIRE Mack makes a number of errors in her article selling offshore wind (“Unleashing the potential of offshore wind power”, The Herald, April 5).

First, she says that the wind is predictable. It might be predictable more often than not as much as a day or two forward, however no person is aware of what wind speeds will likely be subsequent week or subsequent month.

Then she describes the funding as “inward” and guarantees a lot of inexperienced jobs. Actually she needs to be calling the funding “outward” as all of the generators are made in overseas international locations, and in line with a latest report 93 per cent of UK offshore wind is owned by non-UK entities, so they’re reaping 93% of the income. And in 2010 the Scottish Authorities predicted that there could be 28,377 jobs in Scottish offshore wind by 2020, however the eventual consequence was between 1,700 and 1,900 jobs.

Geoff Moore, Alness.


HUGH Macdonald (“Metropolis centres are on life assist so how can society revive them?”, The Herald, April 3) particulars each the signs and causes of the decline of our metropolis centres, a decline he suggests could possibly be terminal “if daring motion is just not taken now”.

It makes me assume that actions which, not like purchasing, are usually not finished on-line may assist save our metropolis centres. Glasgow already has among the most interesting bars, eating places and lodges in addition to a night-time economic system which generates a multi-million pound earnings, so throughout Scotland metropolis centres (and excessive streets) may absolutely profit if assist at authorities and native stage is supplied coupled with a overview of our outdated technique of calculating enterprise charges.

We want daring imaginative and prescient and decisive motion to nurture and assist native companies which, allied to extra inexpensive housing in our interior cities, may assist make our metropolis centres enticing locations to dwell in and to go to.

Billy Gold, Hielan Jessie bar, Glasgow.


SCOTLAND’S bothy tradition is in danger as idiots scatter litter and vandalise bushes. Crowds of youngsters flocked to The Meadows in Edinburgh to blast music, drink and go away garbage behind. Litter is a significant downside. however what does the Scottish Authorities do? It places up the worth of service baggage from 5p to 10p. Wow.

The Scottish Authorities will introduce a 20p Deposit Return Scheme (DRS) in July 2022 however present bottle banks in council areas are extraordinarily profitable. So individuals, particularly the aged, must trek to their nearest DRS level. The idiots who trash our streets, roadsides and parks are usually not going to be deterred by a 20p bottle deposit or 10p for a plastic bag, since they are going to have paid £5-£10 for his or her carry-out. Fines for deliberate littering needs to be elevated to £1,000. This may remedy the issue, not the softly-softly academic method which has failed miserably for greater than 50 years.

Clark Cross, Linlithgow.


DAVID J Crawford (Letters, April 5) is true to not fear about enhancing his chateaubriand with “fish poo with a pinch of salt”. Simply assume the place his hens eggs have been hiding.

R Russell Smith, Largs.


A COUPLE of days in the past I used to be biking on a B street, a rural slender street. As I got here down the hill a automotive approached. Because it handed I heard shouting. The automotive driver was screaming that I ought to get of the best way, that he was in a rush, that I had a cheek being out on the street. The feedback continued as he drove up the hill.

I gave a sigh: how impolite. Then I smiled; he nonetheless needed to come throughout the half-dozen cyclists I had handed a minute in the past, the canine walker with six frantic animals and the 2 ladies on horses, using facet by facet.

Allan McDougall, Neilston.

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